Ep. 4 - I Feel Pretty
Gay men like to feel pretty and witty and bright! The major difference about gay men and everyone else, is that everyone else only diets and works out right before summer.
Gay men like to feel charming, oh so charming that it’s alarming how charming they like to feel! The huge question is: how much of that charm is for real?
This week I heard that, according to a study, women prefer to have a relationship with a not so attractive man. They say that they feel more secure when the competition isn’t always harassing their loved one. What competition, I ask? Because, if women prefer the not so attractive, the competition harassing the attractive ones would be gay men, who live so obsessed with their images!!
If such a study was made in the gay community would the conclusions be the same? How safe do you feel having a pretty and oh so charming boyfriend by your side?
This can lead us many places and raise many questions. On the one hand, having a gorgeous boyfriend may help your self esteem; you can project your desired image for yourself on that piece of devil sent man. On the other hand, who has a good self esteem being the ugly one in the couple? Would you rather deal with the competition harassing your partner or the jealousy from your partner because the competition keeps giving you the eye?
I went to the cinema this weekend to see My Blueberry Nights and in the film, Norah Jones mentions our need to choose some people as mirrors of ourselves. For me it’s like taking a picture: no matter how often I look yourself in the mirror, I always find I’m quite different in a picture. Choosing others to pose as our reflection is even trickier.
What would the solution be: The pretty couple with the pretty and the ugly with the ugly? Is «beauty lies in the eye of the beholder» just romantic bull or can it really be the force of a pretty unbalanced looking couple? Or… is a pretty hot ass and a pretty juicy dick in a pretty shaped body more important than a pretty face?
P.S. This is not a post about brains!!!
May 28th, 2008 at 10:42
It sure isn’t a post about brains…
Oh God. I, for one, do only diet when the summer is coming… it’s sad, but it’s true. Is it because of that that I’m alone??? LOL
Oh my friend, this post touches more sore spots in me that I would like to admit… you know what spots I’m referring to…
Self esteem is a bitch!
XUAC!
May 28th, 2008 at 11:16
If you only diet when summer is coming, are you straight? The song I Feel Pretty is also about self esteem. In the song, the girl feels pretty because she’s loved by a wonderful boy, she doesn’t say hunk, she doesn’t say hung, she doesn’t say endowed… so what the hell does she mean? When you’re in love, you know what you mean! My post isn’t about brains but you need brains to know that learning to love yourself is that greatest love of all (ahahaha… whitney’s back!!!). Love your wonderful self, my friend, cause I love your wonderful self, and it would be a shame to be the only one!
May 28th, 2008 at 16:22
You are inspired today!
I can’t wait for our fabulousness to take NYC by storm! hehehehhe!
Anyway, I do love myself - even if sometimes I have a hard time enjoying my figure… lol. I was just stating that this is something that used to be a problem and that even screwed up probably the best and most stable relationship I had… but I felt like the ugly betty and he was my prince. BAHHH!
Luv u my friend!
May 28th, 2008 at 16:36
My point exactly! Is there a point on longing for a gorgeous man if you’ll end up feeling like the Ugly Betty of the couple? Or should we figure out how to become a Cinderella before finding our Prince Charming? One side of the mushroom made Alice grow shorter, the other side made her grow taller, but both made her grow wiser and appreciate herself and the world around her. Looking back, was it really the most stable relationship you had or was him the one that took you the longest to forget?
May 28th, 2008 at 19:36
“Gay men like to feel pretty and witty and bright!�
I think you’re being narrow minded… ‘cos I you BEAR in mind… (yeap the pun is really intended) you’ll see there’s a wide range of gay people (oh dear, I’m being so PC… ‘people’).
And the movie I watched lat weekend, Nine Lives by Dean Howell, proves it right: there is no ONE type of gay…
(BTW MrWannaB… Steve Callahan is a hunk… enlist him for a future Monday
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I’d write: “stupid people only diets and works out right before summer� whether they like wiener or pie. J
“This week I heard that, according to a study, women prefer to have a relationship with a not so attractive man.�
I would say the same… I wouldn’t like to spend my time with someone who worries so much about his appearance… but that’s me…
They think they may defy the laws of ageing… but they can’t…
But… why are there so many metrosexuals these days? Rumours say they shave their (male) pubes so their girlfriends don’t have excuses not to perform orally in an adequate way and r(a)ise to the occasion… (yeap another pun).
To tell you the truth, everyone has gone berserk…
Who knows why who gets who?
I believe William Lawson’s scotch whiskey has the right answer:
NO RULES… great scotch.
PS: Mr. Wanna B. don’t mind your lardiness… sex appeal doesn’t rely only on a lean fit body… that’s too pre-fab…
The exciting is to look at someone and release his potential… but on the other hand, no one has the right to change the other…
May 28th, 2008 at 23:13
Dear Engine, I mentioned the post is not about brains… but my thoughts are neither about everybody all the time… People, be gay or straight, have so many types as there are dating sites on the internet! If I’d write only universal thoughts I’d be pretty messed up, or pretty talented… in this case I might have been pretty narrow minded, but that was the theme.
In the study, the women didn’t mention if the men they’d rather not be with are naturally handsome or happen to worry about their looks too much as you suggest. In «Steel Magnolias», Dolly Parton has a beauty parlor and teaches Darryl Hannah the business with a motto: «There’s no such thing as natural beauty!».
In a society obsessed with beauty and becoming obsessed with what’s natural, which will prevail? Pretty hard to tell!
p.s. This comment was a bit about brains
May 29th, 2008 at 0:01
enGine, your comment is very confusing…
anyway, As I wrote on one reply I’m fine with myself! This post just made me remember certain moments of my life.
May 29th, 2008 at 8:24
I think the comment is great! Engine has a very incisive way of commenting, it’s challenging even… it even made me use my brains after 11pm and you know how it shut down at 7pm like shops!!! ehehe